THE PRIMARY REASON FOR GETTING MARRIED

THE PRIMARY REASON FOR GETTING MARRIED

I was in a discussion earlier with a couple who belonged to the older generation.....we were talking about the reasons for getting married...and they told me that... "security, financial security should be the primary concern."....I immediately disagreed, I said,..."No, no, no! Love is the most important factor...the one that really matters....security may, and even, should, be considered, but love takes center stage!...and please nothing about this marrying your own kind talk....love knows no boundaries and limits!"

Then they said..."Perhaps it depends on how you were brought up. We were brought up to follow our parents and sacrifice. If at first, you don't love them...you will learn to love them eventually, as the years pass." Then my wife said..."Let's just put it this way, perhaps you're right, that eventually, you may learn to love someone....but it is still better to marry someone that you truly love from the very start."

I further said...."That if I hadn't married someone I truly love...I don't know how I would get through each problem-filled day....No marriage comes with a guarantee that you won't have any problems....but a marriage founded on true love will have 2 people tackling the problem together, with laughter, with tears and with real concern for each others happiness. This is the guarantee that only true love can give."

Then the conversation went to how wives should always serve their husbands, cooking, washing, down to the ordering of food, bringing of food to the table....and again, I disagreed, I said..."My wife serves me and my kids because she wants to, not because she needs to, or because I order her to. She cooks, I cook, she washes, I wash...and when we're out, I treat her as if she was still my girlfriend. I order, I bring the food to the table. Is there a rule that says...when you get married, you have to stop being a gentleman to your wife?"

Then they proceed to claim that the kind of relationships that are built on being practical, rather than being emotional, are the ones that last.

This was my answer, and I ended our conversation with this....."A good marriage isn't just about lasting forever....it's about being in love every step of the way...from the beginning...to the mid-life crises...to forever. It is about being happy and being in love with each other...forever!"

Bravo to everyone who married for love....and to those who say otherwise and say it to your face.....tell them this....."I bet you a billion bucks, that despite your riches.... I am happier than you are."

Jesus never said anything about practicality.....Jesus never gave importance to money.....however, He always preached about love.

God bless my cousin Evan Lloyd and his beautiful wife Che ...who are so much in love...May the Good Lord bless your union, your lives with Ethan..and your love!

To my wife Dinah....."When I met you, it didn't matter what state I was in...didn't matter who I was with....nothing else mattered...I knew you were the one I would love to spend the rest of my life with....Our lives hasn't been problem free, on the contrary, in fact....but our love and our trust in each other, and our faith in a loving God, has gotten us through the worst storms....and I just can't imagine spending a single day of my life without you and our Mary Nicole, Niccolo and Lizzie."

God bless all of us, who married for love and who remain so deeply in love with the people we married!