JUST MY THOUGHTS....(5) Children

It is never wrong to be strict with your children, esp. when you've set the rules, scolding is sometimes warranted....what's wrong is when you disrespect them and treat them like morons...kids are intelligent, but they need guidance....so explain the merits of your rules...do it again and again until they get it...then make them feel that you love them, like no one else can.

Remember when it comes to our children, there is no such thing as "being over-protective". Protect them from all forms of harm, even from evil intentions, if you can, it is our obligation, our responsibility, Even if they resist at first, insist on it, fight them on it, explain the merits of your restrictions...then pray for it, and hope for enlightenment for you and for your kids.

A piece of advice to parents....before you allow your daughters to join any "beauty contests", first check the organizers...check the group, do they have good standing in the community, then check the individual members. Then ask yourselves, why a small town beauty contest has to have a swimsuit event? Don't let your daughters get exploited...even if they persist, PROHIBIT THEM, if it's for their own good.

 

Another advice to parents...father and mother should see eye to eye when it comes to ways and means to discipline their child....what is allowed, what is not allowed, how strict they will be....one parent, the father, for example, will be very strict to his daughter....the mother will have to be the understanding parent, explaining to her child why such rules are set....she should not connive with the daughter, to hide something from the father....the results oftentimes are disastrous.....the mother not only disrespects the father, but has actually given her daughter license to lie to her father and betray his trust....how can this be acceptable?  .....Parenthood requires teamwork...both parents looking out for their child's future.

As parents....wherever we are...whether outside, at home, or here in the net or FB.... be careful about what we do, what we say and what we write....because no matter how loud we yell at them, even if we lecture them all day....kids are better in imitating what they see, rather than following what they hear!

A few nights ago as I was about to read an obscure comic book of mine, my son suddenly said, "Oh I remember that book vividly", I was surprised, because this was a collection of old western comic books, not really to his liking. The he said, "You read that to me, each night, on my hospital bed, until I fell asleep." So spend quality time with your kids...they never forget it.

CULTIVATE READING IN YOUR KIDS...IT'S JUST ABOUT THE BEST HOBBY THERE IS...IT'LL BRING THEM TO DIFFERENT WORLDS, INTRODUCE THEM TO DIFFERENT CULTURES...IT'LL STIR VARYING SENSATIONS AND EMOTIONS IN THEM...AND IF THEY READ THE RIGHT BOOKS...IT CAN STRENGTHEN THEM AND ENLIGHTEN THEM...SO START THEM EARLY...GET THEM A BOOK NOW!

 

I WOULD GLADLY TRADE MY PRIDE IN EXCHANGE FOR AN APOLOGETIC AND HUMBLE HEART. SO DON'T EVER BE TOO PROUD TO SAY YOUR SORRY, TO ANYONE, EVEN TO YOUR HELP AND TO YOUR EMPLOYEES, INCLUDING YOUR ENEMIES. BUT ALWAYS BE MORE THAN READY TO SAY SORRY TO YOUR LOVED ONES, MOST ESP. YOUR CHILDREN.

 

TO MY YOUNG FB FRIENDS...WHILE RESPONSIBILITY MAY BE SOMETHING YOU REALLY HATE....REMEMBER THAT RESPONSIBILITY IS ALSO THE ONE THING THAT MOLDS YOU, DEVELOPS YOU, GIVES YOU CHARACTER, GIVES YOU STRENGTH...AND MAKES YOU A REAL MAN.