My children and I were talking the other night about my sordid past....well not really sordid, just kidding....I had a very tame life.
They asked me about my past relationships, and how I acted when I liked or loved someone.
I said, having a lot of mirrors at home and knowing myself, I knew I wasn't good looking, so I studied myself....what was my weakness, what was my strength?
Like I said, I
knew I wasn't Adonis, so I endeavored to make sure that I was always
clean, well-groomed and smelled good...to make-up for what I didn't
have.
Then I read a lot and I learned, and I trained myself to act like a gentleman at all times....
Then I discovered that I could write, and so I used that....
and then I discovered further that I could talk, so I used that too....but I never used them to lie or make up stories, I used those talents to express my feelings in beautiful words....
but in the end it was not about strengths or weaknesses....it was about sincerity, and it was about destiny.
Then they asked me when I knew when to stop courting or wooing someone...I said you would know, unless you were terribly insensitive and stubborn...sometimes a simple and direct "NO" from the lady should suffice.
Then my daughter asked me what a girl had to do for a boy to stop making advances....I said, actually, a simple "NO" should do, because generally you don't want to be rude or hurtful, but sometimes harsh words have been uttered to dissuade some insensitive men.
Then they asked me again...what I did after a rejection, I said have been rejected more than a couple of times so I do have some experience...
I try to keep my distance, for 2 reasons....
One, I am just human, and I am hurt...
Two, as a gentleman, I always try to respect a lady's wish.
While a "YES" is what we desire....we should learn to accept a "NO" and be respectful afterwards.
In the end, while it is always wise to limit the usage of your weaknesses and magnify your strengths.....it should be more about acceptance, sincerity, honesty to yourself and to her, and respecting yourself and the lady as well.
But....But...all this courting and allowing themselves to be wooed and courted can only happen after college...then they asked me what age I started....
I simply said ...don't commit the mistakes that I did....
Family and studies first....Love...true love can wait.
Then I read a lot and I learned, and I trained myself to act like a gentleman at all times....
Then I discovered that I could write, and so I used that....
and then I discovered further that I could talk, so I used that too....but I never used them to lie or make up stories, I used those talents to express my feelings in beautiful words....
but in the end it was not about strengths or weaknesses....it was about sincerity, and it was about destiny.
Then they asked me when I knew when to stop courting or wooing someone...I said you would know, unless you were terribly insensitive and stubborn...sometimes a simple and direct "NO" from the lady should suffice.
Then my daughter asked me what a girl had to do for a boy to stop making advances....I said, actually, a simple "NO" should do, because generally you don't want to be rude or hurtful, but sometimes harsh words have been uttered to dissuade some insensitive men.
Then they asked me again...what I did after a rejection, I said have been rejected more than a couple of times so I do have some experience...
I try to keep my distance, for 2 reasons....
One, I am just human, and I am hurt...
Two, as a gentleman, I always try to respect a lady's wish.
While a "YES" is what we desire....we should learn to accept a "NO" and be respectful afterwards.
In the end, while it is always wise to limit the usage of your weaknesses and magnify your strengths.....it should be more about acceptance, sincerity, honesty to yourself and to her, and respecting yourself and the lady as well.
But....But...all this courting and allowing themselves to be wooed and courted can only happen after college...then they asked me what age I started....
I simply said ...don't commit the mistakes that I did....
Family and studies first....Love...true love can wait.
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